Why am I getting so upset because my husband brought his child's mother a christmas gift?
Just to name a few reasons:
He constantly lies and keeps things away from me and I always find out the details later. Now mind you, I already expected most of the things anyway and when it comes out through me snooping or through the kids just coming out saying things, he lies and says I'm crazy or the kids are lieing. This time, he says it was a sarcastic gift that was meant for me because he was mad with me but then changed his mind and game me the decent/expensive one. (both were bottles of perfume) So he was only being smart to her. I said well, you could have given both to me or at least told me about the supposedly being smart gift. Right now, I'm just to the point where he has just hurt me so much where I'm to the point where I'm just bitter with him. I don't know if I'm being childish or what, but I don't want him touching me, I don't care to have sex at all – I just don't have any type of close connection with him. He is all around secretive. We don't talk as much as I'd want to…..We don't go out ever (he goes out with his friends) I'm home with the children (4 girls, 14 yrs 11 yrs 22 months, & 6 months). I would go out to if I had a babysitter for the baby). We have the 2 younger children together and then he has 3 other children outside the marriage. We have been married for 4 years – The last 2 years of the marriage is where we have both done things to each other verbally and said some mean things (I've told him I cheated on him – I didn't, but I did feel like it because of what I've caught him…….talking to his ex (not his child's mother) for an 1 1/2 hour and he don't even talk to me no more then 10 minutes. I am still pissed over that – I just feel like how can you touch or expect me to give you love and affection and you constantly hurt me with your lies and betrayal) We both accuse each of cheating – I've never physically caught him but wouldn't put it past him with all of the past signs and actions that he has shown. He is more of the person to if we argue he wants to have sex and make up……me on the other hand……whatever he says that hurts me and along with the past things that has hurt me is built up and I just don't want to be bothered with him in a sexual or close way.
he is a multiple cheat, so do you want to live like that?
Now list the reasons you stay with him…if they don't equal or compare to all the above things, you should seriously consider why you are together at all. You deserve to be happy & loved in a trusting relationship…don't forget that your gut instinct is usually right!!! Good luck.
This is beyond a simple answer on a discussion board. You need marriage counseling, you two are not resolving your issues in constructive ways whatsoever. You're both being horrible to each other.
This sounds like sum HILLBILLY CIRCUS..get the eff out of oit momma..he sounds like a doush that is using the best yrs of your life away..
SHADY.
You are hurt about the xmas gift because he lied about it. It would have been better if he would have said the kids wanted to get something for their mother. I don't know why he finds it necessary to lie and hide things from you. You need to just tell him how you feel and how if things don't change you are gone. It would be a good idea to ask him how he feels about going to marrigae counseling. If he's not willing to make this marriage work then leave him.
This is foolish. You are not going to let go of the past and you are not going to have any more trust in the future. He has cheated before so why are you still with him. Why did you think he was going to change. You do not seem like you are going to be able to handle this situation because even if nothing is going on between them he is always going to be connected to this woman because of the child. IF you are going to get upset because he gave her a Christmas present, you can't handle the situation and need to end the relationship
Get a divorce, unless your both willing to go to counseling it doesn't sound like much of a marriage. Move on, I'm sure your children are picking up on the feelings you show to each other and that's not healthy for them. If he really wants it to work you will both have to change your ways. Gut feelings are almost always right. Its not to late to make a break and start a new life, better now than 10 years down the road and 10 years wasted.
Bit of a player isn't he.?
I don't think he has any respect for you whatsoever.
Do you honestly think that this relationship is going anywhere?
Unfortunately you have a lot of children caught up in this mess.
He maybe feels trapped and weighed down by all this responsibility,and runs away from it by talking to ex girlfriends.
If you leave him where will you go with 4 kids?
You may be stuck for a while until they get older.
Why am I getting so upset because my husband brought his child's mother a christmas gift?
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